Dr Paul Walton – Creating a Positive Environment for Staff in an International School


“To Be a Leader Is Both a Privilege and A Great Responsibility”

Working in education provides leaders the opportunity to work with professionals from a variety of backgrounds, experiences, and a wide range of pedagogical ideas and approaches.

School leaders can often share successful examples, strategies and processes that have made a significant positive impact on a community of learners.  They have improved the quality of education and outcomes for many students and inspired staff to learn, grow and flourish under their inspirational leadership.  

An experienced International School Leader, Dr Paul Walton brings his views on creating vibrant communities, developing staff and building a positive school environment.  He is a strong believer in high quality professional development for all staff, fostering a culture of collaboration throughout a school and lifelong learning.

Experience

With over 20 years of experience in education both in the UK and internationally, he has been a Principal of international schools in various countries and led schools to ‘Outstanding’ inspection ratings.  He has worked in Hungary, Malaysia, the United States, Slovenia, and Bahrain enjoying a rich variety of cultural differences, experiences and adventures.

He started his career in the UK as a computer science teacher, quickly moved into leadership and led schools on Teaching and Learning, Technology for Learning and Professional Development, and becoming an International School Principal.  

As a Principal and School Inspector, he has continued to visit, support, and learn from schools around the world, developing strategies for best practices to develop the highest possible quality of education throughout many British International Schools.

Starting Points 

I believe that understanding dedicated and passionate professionals starts with building trust, being consistent, and earning respect.  If compassion and understanding are not modeled, then this will not occur in the workplace.  Showing authenticity in your everyday approach will slowly create solid building blocks of building trust and then setting high expectations will lead to improved performance in others according to the Pygmalion effect (1968).

According to Covey (2006), the first steps in creating trust are through self trust and ‘in our ability to set and achieve goals, to keep commitments, to walk our talk’.  In a nutshell, it is created by actions and ‘doing what you have promised to do’.  Fulfilling the promises over time starts to create trust in any sector and having a high standard model for all.

I would personally recommend five points to address in the initial plan to create opportunities for everyone to work together to help build a positive school environment for staff.  The points below are some that I have implemented in British International Schools.  These are:

  1. Demonstrate a Growth Mindset
  2. Foster a Sense of Community
  3. Engage in Open Communication
  4. Celebrate Successes
  5. Encourage Personal Growth

Growth Mindset

When facing a new challenge we often reference ‘Mindset’.  According to Dweck (2007),‘The growth mindset creates a powerful passion for learning’.  Moving from a current to a desired state in an environment requires perseverance and resilience.  Adopting a ‘Growth Mindset’ equips all staff with the belief to improve through hard work, good strategies, and input from others.  It creates a love of learning, embracing challenges, applying effort on the path to mastery and gives staff a greater sense of free will.

We expect our students to do this each day in class and this is the same approach needed when creating a positive community.  It reinforces what we ask students to do by modeling this ourselves.

Sense of Community

A sense of belonging starts with effort first.  Planning and creating meaningful opportunities for your team members to work together needs careful consideration to think about time, environment, purpose, support, and resources.  With this careful consideration, approaching each of these with empathy helps to understand the motivations and worries of members of staff.

These could include off-site functions, a social activity, team building, designated time for a clear and specific purpose of learning or student progress, work in the local area, etc.

Once staff have met in a safe and comfortable climate then follow-up sessions and meetings should be created to further embed this practice.

Over time, this will transform into trust, dependence, and a sense of working together for a common vision.  The staff will be professional first but will have a stronger respect and sense of care for one another personally.

Communication

Anticipate each interaction as an opportunity to demonstrate clear, consistent, and concise communication skills.  Ensure that you are listening actively, and giving your colleague your full attention during the conversation.  Be mindful of your body language and your non-verbal cues such as folding arms, avoiding eye contact, or creating barriers.  Use positive language to motivate and inspire action such as ‘Thank you, Let’s try, We can, Let’s do this, etc.’.  Be open to feedback and listen to the views of others to engage and realign staff when they have questions.

Demonstrate Empathy.  ‘Empathy’ as reported by (Forbes, 2021) is the most important leadership skill according to research, it is essential for happiness and performance and tops the list for enhancing innovation and retention. 

Staff appreciate honest and open communication, avoiding verbose and obscure language helps with engagement and understanding.

Successes

(Wang et al. 2017) stated when people ‘celebrate their achievements, they are more likely to remain motivated and pursue further goals, creating a positive feedback loop of success and satisfaction’.

Celebrating the successes of teams can create further bonds, comfort in this new environment, and extra motivation.  Leaders who focus on the successes of others first again demonstrate a humble, authentic, and ‘service-minded’ approach to leadership and a passion to put others first.

Celebrating quick wins and successes have a positive impact on individuals when building a collaborative environment and also through change management processes. This then creates a sense of purpose as mentioned in the 8-Step Process for Leading Change by Kotter (2002).  The sense of purpose and urgency can be clearly communicated to all staff together and one important aspect of change management is to celebrate successes and quick wins.  Kotter mentions ‘Nothing motivates more than success’. 

Personal Growth

Enable personal growth by applying various coaching methods, support, and mentoring.  Staff should be clear on their roles and responsibilities and receive regular feedback related to their performance.  The feedback should include constructive feedback, with encouragement to seek new challenges and to improve as a lifelong learner.  A key emphasis on active listening should be employed with guiding questions, a demonstration of empathy and a focus to help.  This is a supportive process in a safe environment that can foster further continuous learning in all professionals.

Outside of the meeting, professional development can be introduced in the form of online, in-person, guest speakers, external courses, and internal development.  There are many approaches that can be used to give staff autonomy and ownership and these can be aligned with the vision and development plan of the school.  

I am very motivated to help all staff improve and would encourage all staff to work with other schools as I have seen firsthand the huge impact of TeachMeets, workshops, and hosting professional development events.  I have implemented these in all schools I have worked in including the first TeachMeets from 2015 in Malaysia.  They are inspirational and are available for all educators to work together and make a difference for all students in all schools.    

A Step towards the future

In the next 5-10 years, I believe that a greater emphasis on Emotional Intelligence, Coaching, and Leadership will be included in schools not only for staff but wider opportunities for students as these skills are becoming more desirable in the global workplace.

Final Words of Wisdom

Start with the five building blocks listed above and then add more complex and innovative strategies on top of these.

Put the needs of your team first, and be visible and at the forefront of situations when a crisis, difficult situation, or the inevitable tough days are upon you, and behind the team when the plaudits arrive.  

Always celebrate the successes of the staff team.

References

Douar Shems’y Ecological village, home to 144 orphaned children

After the devastating earthquake of September 2023 in the Al Haouz region, Morocco, a plan for hope was envisioned.

The Moroccan Association for the Aid to Children in Precarious Situations (AMESIP) stepped into action and laid the foundation to create an ecological village. The vision; to provide a safe, benevolent living environment, in harmony with the urgent needs of the Amizmiz community.

Just 11 months later, on 1 August 2024, an ecological village, Douar Shems’y, opened its doors. Now it’s home to 144 orphaned children, offering them a safe haven, educational and psychosocial support, and a caring environment in which they can flourish.

This project is much more than a shelter: it embodies a holistic vision combining protection, education and sustainable development for the benefit of the most vulnerable children and families.

At the heart of the village is a beautiful school, supported by entrepreneur, Aviv Pode. The school is where adapted educational programmes, enriching cultural and sporting activities, as well as sustainable initiatives strengthen the links between people and their environment. Having an extensive background in humanitarian aid and not-for-profit organisations, Pode has supported humanitarian and environmental initiatives such as building public schools in developing countries, planting trees and rebuilding animal shelters. As well as being a humanitarian, environmentalist and educational entrepreneur, Pode is a founder of three eco-friendly bilingual Montessori pre-schools, in Paris, Geneva, and Monaco. Pode shares his insight into how the school within this  unique village will care for, teach and prepare its students for a better future.

Why was it important for you to get involved in humanitarian work and this project in particular?

I served as a regional coordinator in ‘Latel’, a humanitarian organisation, conducting food collection and distribution campaigns, educational programs in schools, and operation of food warehouses.

After participating in a disaster relief mission following the 2003-2004 tsunami in SouthEast Asia, I was so affected by the experience that it led me to further volunteer and carry out humanitarian aid work all over the world. In partnership with Mission Enface, I built three schools in Laos serving 232 children and recently became an official partner and contributor to Save The Children, a global non-profit organisation to protect children in disaster and conflict areas.

After hearing about the devastation and loss for the children in Al Haouz region I felt compelled to support.  As a person, who’s passionate about education, I understand the importance of providing a caring, nurturing and safe environment for children where teaching and learning is at the heart.

Can you tell us about some of your other eco-friendly initiatives?

I aspire to be a positive contributor to the planet and caring for the environment is one of my core values. With the devastating bushfires in Australia to the extreme drought in Central and North Africa, I wanted to contribute by planting over 5,000 trees in Australia and Africa in cooperation with One-Tree-Planted, providing clean drinking water and sanitation solutions to remote communities through Water For People and supporting climate change research through TogetherBand.

Within the schools that I founded, I have ensured that the furniture, toys, and learning materials are eco-friendly and LEED (Leadership in Energy and Environmental Design) certified. In each school, there is an integrated eco-curriculum embedded in the daily program, exposing and involving our little learners in biodiversity, plastic pollution, wild-life preservation, and teaching the children about the importance of being positive contributors to their communities and the planet.

What is the vision for the school and the village?

The vision is to support the orphans in their reconstruction process and guide them to a bright future despite the challenges they have faced. We have a dedicated team of educators, cultural specialists and social workers who will be present to carefully ensure their development and overall development. Each child is considered a seed of hope for the future of the country, and AMESIP has made a pledge to accompany them throughout their journey.

How is the school providing a supportive and inspiring learning environment?

The school strives to inspire in every facet from individualised and adaptive learning to the actual physical learning environment. The foundation of the school is to ensure a safe and development-friendly environment for children by providing them with quality infrastructure, educational programs adapted to their level and vocational training opportunities for adolescents. The primary objective is to create a stimulating and inclusive educational environment for the children of the village, with an approach:

Growing in well-being and dignity”

In order to achieve this goal we will focus on five main objectives:

  1. Rehabilitation and Education
  2. New digital technology
  3. Integral Psychological Support
  4. Mental Health Education
  5. Community Support

How will the physical environment support the children?

The architecture is very respectful of the natural environment of the region, so that children grow in symbiosis with their land. The design of the school comprises natural, eco-friendly furniture and materials. The rooms are without strong colours or other distractions to encourage optimal and uninterrupted learning.

The children also have access to a range of high-quality sports facilities and an educational vegetable garden; where children learn to grow seasonal vegetables while following food traceability for a healthy and responsible diet.

What makes the village ‘eco-friendly’?

Douar Shems’y is a model of eco-responsibility; respecting the environment and supporting sustainability. As well as the educational vegetable garden there are already a number of systems in place at Douar Shems’y that the children will learn about and be involved in, including a water treatment system which provides clean and accessible drinking water and a photovoltaic power plant that provides renewable energy to power the village.a

Is there a way that readers could support this project further?

Yes, if anyone would like to contribute to the sustainability of this unique project to ensure that Douar Shems’y continues to grow and offer a better life to its residents, there is a national fundraising campaign ‘kiwicollecte.ma’

Also, there are social media links that will keep you up to date with the campaign and news from the village:

Website: www.amesip.org

Facebook: Official Amesip

Instagram: shemsy_amesip

LinkedIn: amesip ong

Three Ways to Stay Connected to Your Senior Loved Ones While Social Distancing

After more than 45 days in lockdown, it’s no surprise that many people are going a tad stir-crazy. But it’s far worse for seniors: Not only have visits from their kids and grandkids been suspended, but there’s the extra stress that comes with the nagging suspicion that they’ll be advised to remain on lockdown long after younger people begin trickling back to work and the world starts opening up again.

In fact, the AARP Foundation has even come up with this dire comparison: Prolonged social isolation, for those aged 50 and older, “is the health equivalent of smoking 15 cigarettes a day.” Fortuitously, some of the niftiest technology offers solutions both to keep us connected and protect against some of the miscreants taking advantage of the situation.

• Health Checks. If you are worried that all of the anxiety is harming your loved ones’ overall well-being, the machine-learning algorithms that analyze activity data as part of Alarm.com’s Wellness solution can provide you with the very details you’ve suddenly found yourself obsessing about.

Did they open their medicine cabinet when they should, to take their prescription? Have their sleeping, eating, and (yes) bathroom patterns changed? Are they up and about during the day?

All that and more is done by connecting their home to yours via smart-home technology, with real-time smartphone alerts to let you know if something’s amiss.

“You don’t even know it’s there, but it’s here to protect you and let someone know if something does go wrong,” says Margarete Pullen of Dallas, Texas, whose son had the system installed by an authorized service provider for her and her husband along with a Wellcam video camera with two-way voice capability.

• Movie meet-ups. Most of us are just trying to find novel ways to cope with a situation that Nicholas Christakis, a social scientist, and physician at Yale University, told Science magazine “calls on us to suppress our profoundly human and evolutionary hard-wired impulses for connection.”

Google’s new Netflix Party extension lets friends and family watch – and video-chat their way through – a movie together on their computers. You’ll need a NetFlix subscription, but then you’re free to debate if the Tiger King is worth all the hype and whether Carol Baskin really did kill her husband. Plus, unlike in real theaters, not many people (if any) are physically there to complain if you’re making too much noise eating popcorn.

• Apps! Apps! Apps! No NetFlix subscription? With apps such as FaceTime, Skype, Houseparty, and Zoom comes more proof that social distancing needn’t mean social disconnecting. Mass virtual dinner parties. Mass virtual “happy hours.” Mass virtual gym classes. They’ve all become quite the rage, with one Vermont couple in their eighties even touchingly using Apple’s FaceTime to see and talk to each other after the husband had to be put in a nursing home that bars visitors during the pandemic.

Nurse Educators Play Essential Roles in Public Health

Nurses remain an essential and trusted part of the health care system, and the nation faces an urgent need for nurses due to the COVID-19 outbreak.

The World Health Organization is also celebrating the value of nursing by designating 2020 as the International Year of the Nurse and the Midwife. In addition, 2020 is the 200th anniversary of the birth of Florence Nightingale, the 19th- century social reformer known as the founder of modern nursing.

The demand for nurses, and therefore for nurse educators, is likely to remain high, according to the National League for Nursing (NLN), as nurse educators are on the front lines teaching new nurses who are filling the shortages in hospitals and other health care settings.

Nurse educators will likely continue to be well paid. Data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics estimate the median salary for nurse educators at $73,490. They may work in academic settings, but some expand their focus to teaching in schools, businesses, hospitals, and community agencies.

The NLN shares some key advantages of becoming a nurse educator:

– Intellectual stimulation. Nurse educators know the latest research in the field and have the ability to share it with others.

– Flexibility. Nurse education allows for more autonomy and a flexible schedule. Not to mention that technology allows educators to teach from anywhere in the world, at any time, from the beach to the ski slopes.

– Research. Nurse educators have opportunities for research and publication in scholarly journals to advance the field of nursing and their own careers.

– Meaning. The desire for a purpose-driven life steers many people to the nurse education field, where they can make a significant difference in a variety of ways.

– Fulfillment. Nurse educators rejoice in encouraging young students and take pride in their accomplishments.

– Impact. Nurse educators, by shaping and developing the next generation of nurses and by working in their communities, will continue to impact the shape of healthcare for future generations.

– Inspiration. Everyone remembers the teacher or teachers who made a difference for them by giving them that extra encouragement or helping them explore paths they might not have seen.

But quite possibly the number- one reason to become a nurse educator, according to the NLN, is the unique chance to “teach what you love.”

Many career tracks exist for potential nurse educators. Teaching requires at least a master’s degree in either education or nursing, but these degrees may be earned through a traditional college setting or through the variety of fully accredited programs now available online.

How to Boost Your Business in A Digital Environment

Now more than ever, businesses need to explore how to best serve their customers in the digital marketplace. That means finding ways to stay relevant and keep their audiences engaged. A professional development webinar series from the National Kitchen & Bath Association shows businesses how to develop and maintain a strong online presence.

The National Kitchen & Bath Association (NKBA) is a non-profit trade group for the kitchen and bath industry.

The series opens with Jim Nowakowski, a marketing and marketing communications specialist with more than 20 years of experience, notably in the manufacturing and publishing industries. Mr. Nowakowski brings his considerable expertise in communications and business-to-business advertising purchasing patterns to the webinars. The series kicked off on January 10 with “Staying in Front of Your Customers in a Digital Environment.”

Positive feedback from attendees emphasized Mr. Nowakowski’s enthusiasm and business acumen, with comments about his material and delivery such as, “his examples were detailed and easy to understand, with stories that made a point,” and “he was the best presenter I have seen in a while, very engaging and entertaining.”

“It’s always an honor to present my business topics to designers, showroom consultants, architects, and manufacturers,” Nowakowski said after the presentation.

“When I received the feedback, I was thrilled that the audience walked away with knowledge they can use,” he adds.
The webinar focuses on providing the audience with information on digital disruption in the marketplace and what strategic tools can keep a business relevant and valuable in servicing customers.

For example, participants learn how value comes from differentiation and the importance of what makes a business unique.
“What do you do that your competitor doesn’t do? What does your competitor do that you don’t?” Mr. Nowakowski asks.
Mr. Nowakowski also emphasizes how business basics never change, even in the age of disruption, and reviews tactics on how to stay in front of customers in a digital environment that includes using advertising, phone surveys, and quality service.

Hands-Only CPR Can Save Someone You Love

Each year, June 1-7 is designated as CPR and AED Awareness Week. This year, the significance is especially striking. As most Americans continue to spend more of their time at home during the COVID-19 pandemic, the odds of cardiac arrests in a home setting are likely to increase, according to the American Heart Association. Each year, more than 350,000 out-of-hospital cardiac arrests occur in the United States, with about 70 percent happening in homes. Fortunately, Hands-Only CPR can be performed by family or household members. Even in the time of COVID-19, household members may be the lowest-risk providers of CPR at home because they have likely already been exposed, if, in fact, the cardiac-arrest victim has COVID-19.”Rather than waiting for first responders to arrive, performing immediate CPR in the case of cardiac arrest can double or triple a victim’s odds of survival,” says Comilla Sasson, M.D. and Vice President of Emergency Cardiovascular Care at the American Heart Association. “If you are willing and able to do CPR, you should do CPR, even during this pandemic.”Hands-Only CPR involves two simple steps and anyone can learn it from a 90-second video available at heart.org/handsonlycpr.Step 1: If a teen or adult in your home suddenly collapses, call 911 immediately. Step 2: Place one hand on top of the other as shown in the video and push hard and fast on the victim’s chest.

Tempo matters. Rescuers should push on the chest at a rate of 100 to 120 beats per minute and the American Heart Association advises following the beat of any of several songs, including “Stayin’ Alive,” by the Bee Gees, “Crazy in Love,” by Beyoncé featuring Jay-Z, “Hips Don’t Lie,” by Shakira” or “Walk the Line,” by Johnny Cash. People feel more confident performing Hands-Only CPR and are more likely to remember the correct rate when trained to the beat of a familiar song. In 2009, the American Heart Association launched a nationwide Hands-Only CPR campaign, supported nationally by an educational grant from the Anthem Foundation, to raise awareness about this life-saving skill. More than 10 million people have been trained in Hands-Only CPR via events, training kiosks, and video education with the Foundation’s support. Take advantage of shelter-in-place time and brush up on your Hands-Only CPR skills: you just might save someone you love. Visit heart.org/handsonlycpr to watch and share the Hands-Only CPR instructional video.

How to Choose a Legitimate Online Education Institution?

Online education is one of the best things that the internet has to offer. Thanks to online education, people who would have never thought they could get the education they have always dreamed of are now achieving their educational goals. Whether it is working adults, advanced students, or senior citizens, people everywhere are singing praises about online education.

However, it is extremely important to realize that not all online education is the same. Although there are lots of very good online education institutions, there are plenty (if not just as many) online education programs (which are nothing more than scams) trying to take some of your money. In order to avoid wasting your time and money on a scam, it is important to understand how to choose a legitimate online education institution. By educating yourself on what to look for in a legitimate online education institution, you will be able to easily discern online programs that will truly help you get ahead in life from those that will do nothing more than set you back a couple of months and a few hundred dollars. When evaluating online education institutions, the most important thing you should look for is accreditation.

If an online institution, it will be accredited. If it is not legitimate and is actually nothing more than a scam, then it will not be accredited. Although it seems overly simple, it really is that simple to identify what is good and what is not. If an institution is accredited, it will not be difficult to find out. Because of the prevalence of scams on the internet, almost every accredited degree program will proudly display it on the home page of their website.

These programs know that they are in a field filled with frauds, so they want to make sure that you can trust that they are legitimate. If you have to search around an online education institution’s website to determine whether they are accredited or not, then ninety-nine percent of the time they are not. Although it is possible (even though rare) for an institution to fake the fact that they are accredited, it is the best starting point to weed out potential frauds.

Once you have found a program that is accredited, the next step in your evaluation should be non-biased, third-party reviews. This means you need to find reviews of the online degrees institution other than those proudly displayed on their website. This can easily be accomplished by doing a little searching on Google or Yahoo. Honest reviews from individuals who have already had experience with that institution are a great way to not only determine if they are legitimate but to also get a feel for what the program is really like. Although the institutions can say whatever great things they want about themselves, without reading reviews from other real people, you will never truly get a feel for what the program has to offer and entails.

The final step in evaluating an institution is common sense. In reality, this step should be employed throughout the entire evaluation process. If a program seems too good to be true or raises a flag in your head, then you should avoid that specific institution. Nine times out of ten, your gut feeling will lead you in the right direction, so do not be afraid to follow your common sense. By following the steps listed above, you will not only be able to weed out the bad online programs, but you will also be able to select that one that best fits your situation, needs, and goals.

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How to Inculcate Reading Habit Naturally Among Children?

As I have mentioned in my earlier articles that I am an avid reader and love reading.

This article is not about giving tips to anybody or recommending any expensive books or techniques that will transform your child into a Super child. This article is about inculcating reading habit naturally into any child by introducing books of child’s interest.

This article is about my journey with my son who is 7 years old and how he has got a natural bent for reading. My son completely enjoys reading a variety of books. I am sharing this with all you Kind and Nice people so you may connect with my experience.

I believe that the roots of learning lies in the good habits and quality time you spend with your kids.

You do not need to buy the most expensive books to read to your child. There are many good reads available at nominal prices on e-commerce sites like Amazon, Flipkart,Firstcry or you can just walk up to your nearest book store and pick anything as per your child’s age. You can buy used books from Amazon or used book sellers. I do not mind buying second-hand books from book sellers dealing in used books.

I started reading books to my son when he was 7 months old.

I brought the initial books from a Gift card amount 1000 Rs that I have received in my office. Some of his initial books are used books shared by cousins. Even now, he does not mind reading books given with love by relatives and friends.

I brought his initial books from Landmark Store using the gift card. I have brought two beautiful books one of which has beautiful nursery rhymes and another one has an alphabet with beautiful pictures. Later on, I added a few more books in his collection which I have brought from a bookstall exhibited in my office. I spent approx 200 Rupees to buy 3 books which were priced between 50 to 90 Rupees.

Initial Books of My Son
When my son turned almost 3 years old, I purchased a pack of Be Good Stories by Dreamland Publications from Amazon which was priced approx 500 under Amazon lightning deals and started reading a story to him every day. After that, he received a few used books from his cousins. When he turned 4 years, I added a few books in his library which I brought from the International Book Fair at Pragati Maidan, New Delhi. One book that he could recite completely was Hulk to the Rescue by Marvel. I was amazed to see how he could narrate the story in exact words as in the book. A few of his favorites are:

Grandma’s bag of Stories by Sudha Murty
The Stinky Cheese Man and Other Fairly Stupid Tales
Geronimo Stilton Books by Scholastic
Tigers for Dinner by Ruskin Bond
151 Akbar Birbal Stories
5-Minute STAR WARS Stories by Disney
Stink and the Ultimate Thumb-Wrestling by Megan McDonald
Vikram & Betaal
Books by Marvel Studio
Books From My Son’s Collection
Books From My Niece’s Collection
He has a collection of amazing books procured from multiple sources. He also exchanges and shares his books with his friends. This habit gives him and his friends access to more books at no additional cost.

Advice for Graduating Seniors and Their Parents

One of the many casualties of the COVID-19 pandemic has been (or will be) the loss of certain rites of passage for the high school class of 2020. In no specific order, most have lost out on competing in their final year of spring sports, their proms, their graduation ceremony, Senior skip and/or prank day, grad-night outings or parties and in some cases, where students do not have access to Wi-fi or computers in their homes, the end of their school year.

While I cannot imagine anyone wishing these circumstances to befall any child, the fact is that we have no control over the situation. I learned a long time ago that the best way to deal with things is to let go of the things that are beyond my control and put all of my energy into to the things I do have control over. In the words of legendary basketball coach, and very wise human being, John Wooden: “Don’t let what you can’t do, get in the way of what you can do.”

If parents are talking to each other about how awful things are, it does not help anyone and actually hurts their children. When parents express how badly they feel that their child is going to “miss out” on their graduation ceremony or their prom, it actually makes their kids more anxious than they probably already are and makes them feel worse not better.

These things are not going to happen, so I find it is best to accept that fact as soon as possible and begin looking for opportunities in the situation. No circumstance, regardless of how bad or tragic it seems at the time, is without opportunities within it.

High school seniors, in general, are known to feel anxious about all of the big changes that are coming their way, without the added stress of a pandemic and all of the uncertainty it brings. What they need right now is reassurance from their parents that things will work out in time.

When they see that their parents are upset or scared it makes them feel more scared. There’s additional stress in many households for the parents, many of whom are suddenly unemployed, but as the adults in the household it is important to shield your children from those additional concerns right now. If they see you are fearing your future that will likely make them more anxious and fearful about theirs.

A majority of the kids I have talked to are more upset about not being able to hang out with their friends, than they are about missing their senior rites of passage. Some say their parents are more bummed about all they are losing (not being able to post pics on social media from the events they are missing) than they are that their kid is missing the events.

Many of life’s greatest triumphs are sprung during challenging times. Companies like Apple, Microsoft and Airbnb were all born in horrible economic downturns. Nelson Mandela unjustly spent 27-years in prison and could have easily spent those years feeling sorry for himself. Instead he used that time to grow himself into one of the most revered leaders of all time and succeeded in eliminating apartheid in his country.

If you live in the present and take advantage of what each day has to offer you may be surprised to find yourself better off than you were before the pandemic happened.

Adversity is a fact of life for almost everyone. Some people let adversity destroy them, and others look at it as a gift and experience growth. The only difference is in which way you CHOOSE to look at it.

As Wayne Dyer says, “It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there’s nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.”